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There are few things more devastating than a bad breakup, especially when it happens because one partner broke the other’s trust. As you’re getting over someone who cheated, you might struggle with feelings of anger, betrayal, heartache, confusion, and sadness, just to name a few — and that’s completely normal. You are absolutely not alone. Lean on friends and family for support, seek professional help if you’re able to, and trust that you will ultimately heal.

While you recalibrate your routine and begin to move on, it can be useful to have a few mantras on hand. Write them on your bathroom mirror, recite them as you’re heading to work or class, or set reminders on your phone to stop and breathe. While this may feel silly at first, there’s evidence that mantras really do help shift your mindset. According to a 2015 study in the Brain and Behavior journal, silent, positive repetitive speech can actually produce a calming effect on the brain. By reminding yourself over and over that you’re loved and worthy, you can train your mind to fully believe it.

If you have experienced cheating or affairs or know someone who needs help with this this article might be helpful for you if you have experienced infidelity. Kevon Owen is a featured contributing author in this article which can be found at this link. If you would like to discuss this with Kevon he can be reached by phone at 405-740-1249 or you can visit his website at